Resources for Death & Grief

Have you read our new Death Zine? View online or pick up a copy in the library!

This page offers resources, references, and many ways to go deeper on topics around death and grief.

Doing your own research? Email us or call the Reference Desk at 603-766-1720 for assistance!
 

Local Resources

Brookhaven Hospice of NH
Providing care to maximize quality of life.

Hospice Help Foundation
Providing funds for care to those below the poverty line.

Hospice of Southern Maine Bereavement Groups
Bereavement support groups free of charge, held on Zoom.

New Hampshire Alliance for End of Life Options
Resources for "sanity and humanity at life's end."

New Hampshire Funeral Resources & Education
Empowering intentional funeral decisions.

Recorded Library Programs

Panel Discussion: Coping with Grief and Loss during COVID 
Local providers discuss insights about connecting during loss

Panel Discussion: A Good Death
Features local experts on end of life care and grief.

Book Lists

• Death Booklist
• Grief Booklist
• Death in Fantasy & Scifi Booklist
• Youth & Teen Grief & Loss Books

Resources

Page 3 – A Word with Marsha Filion

• Hospice Help Foundation

Page 4 – Be a Heart With Ears

• The Art of Comforting: What to Say and Do for People in Distress
• There is No Good Card for This

Page 9 – Corpse Rights

Want to learn more about corpse rights or local regulations? Check out:

• The Order of the Good Death
• Funeral Consumers Alliance

Page 10 & 11 – Nonfiction Booklist

• Death Books
• Grief Books

Page 12 & 13 – Thanatology

Suggested Reading:

• Don’t Let Death Ruin Your Life: a practical guide to reclaiming happiness after the death of a loved one by Jill Brooke (306.9 B872)
• The Death Class: a true story about life by Erika Hayasaki (306.9 H4135)
• On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (155.937 KUB)
• On Grief and Grieving: finding the meaning of grief through the five stages of loss by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler (155.937 K95) (also available on audio CD)

Page 14 – Death Tarot

• Biddy Tarot
• Death Tarot Card Meanings, Biddy Tarot

Page 15 – Celia’s Séances

• Beyond the Garden Gate by Norma H. Mandel

Page 16 – Podcasts for Passing Away (your time)

• Spotify Playlist
• Radiolab When I Am Dead
• This American Life The Business of Death
• CBC Ideas Death Becomes Us part 1
• CBC Ideas Death Becomes Us part 2
• Fresh Air Mortician Talks
• Kaddish the Podcast - not available on Spotify

Page 17 – Haunting Melodies

• Haunting Melodies Spotify Playlist

Page 18 & 19 – Death is Fantasy & Scifi

• Death in Fantasy & Scifi Booklist

Page 20 & 21 – Caring for Grieving Elders

Suggested Reading:

• How to Care for Aging Parents by Virginia Morris (306.874 M877) - Chapter 18: “Good Grief”
• Circles of Care: how to set up quality home care for our elders by Ann Cason (362.6 C341) - Chapter 7: “Letting go of the old, accepting the new”
• Elderhood by Louise Aronson (362.6 A7696)

Further Resources:

• Helping Seniors Cope with the Loss of a Spouse, Comfort Keepers
• Working Through Grief While Caring For a Senior Loved One, Pathways
• Grief & COVID-19, AARP
• 7 Ways to Help a Parent Who Has Lost a Spouse, Hospice Red River Valley
• Embracing Tender Memories in Family Caregiving, AARP

Page 22 & 23 – Green Funerals & Burials

• Listen to this recorded talk on our podcast, The Parrott Unbound!

Page 24 & 25 – Books to Help Your Child Understand Loss & Grief

• Youth & Teen Grief & Loss Books

Page 26 – Local Cemeteries

• Email the library
• Library Cemetery Resource Page

References

Page 5 – How to Write an Obituary

1. Lamberg, E. (n.d.). How to write an obituary. Featherstitch. Retrieved September 12, 2022.

Page 8 – Digital Assets

1. Swallow, E. (2022, March 11). 7 resources for Handling Digital Life After Death. Mashable. Retrieved September 12, 2022.
2. Doughty, C. (n.d.). End of life planning: The order of the good death. End of Life Planning | The Order of the Good Death. Retrieved September 12, 2022

Page 9 – Corpse Rights

1. Doughty, C. (n.d.). Death bill of rights: The order of the good death. Death Bill of Rights - The Order of the Good Death. Retrieved September 12, 2022

Page 12-13

1. Encyclopædia Britannica, inc. (2009, March 22). Thanatology. Encyclopædia Britannica. Retrieved September 12, 2022.
2. Jordan, J. R. (2000). Research that matters: Bridging the gap between research and practice in thanatology. Death Studies, 24(6), 457-467.

Page 15

1. Mandel, N. H. (2004). Annie and Sarah. In Beyond the Garden Gate: The life of Celia Laighton Thaxter (pp. 125–128). Univ. Press of New England.

Page 20-21

1. Zoler, M. L. (2006, November 1). Elderly face grief and loss differently than do others. Caring for the Ages. Retrieved September 11, 2022.
2. Kowalchuk, K. (2021, April 2). Older people grieve differently. Center for Grief and Trauma Therapy. Retrieved September 11, 2022.
3. Goyer, A. (2022, August 23). 5 communication tips for difficult caregiving talks. AARP. Retrieved September 11, 2022.